Game with Life (My Success story) - Ronnield Francis

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Hi Friends, this is Ronnie Francis.... As I had mention in my IBPS clerical interview experience that, if I get selected I will share my whole success story. I am here to fulfill my promise what I made to you all.

Yesterday Maharashtra Gramin Bank results came and I am in, still waiting for IBPS Clerk. But I am confident enough that I will make it over there as well. I thought I should start working on this from today itself.

Now I should start with for what I am here...

Friends it was year 2011 I started for Bank exams preparation after completing my MBA (HR & Banking), I had joined coaching classes for it. I went for a couple of months, appeared for 2-3 exams but I was not that serious as it was just the beginning. I was not aware of the competition in bank exams. Later I got a call from my colleague saying that there is an opening in a pvt. company for Trainee HR. So I left my preparation, kept it aside and joined that company(DOJ-25th May 2011) started working with that company which I feel was a wrong decision, If I hadn’t stopped there, by today I could have become PO earning lump sum amount. I worked in that company for one year and after getting frustrated with the work atmosphere, every day getting fired from 4-5 bosses...I left(DOL 21st July 2012) and switched(DOJ-05th November 2012) to another Pvt co, where the atmosphere was much better they payed little more than my previous company. I was happy initially there; everything went fine till the month of April.

In mid of April month my mother fell sick and she was hospitalized. She was admitted for 15 days after which Dr told her condition is not good, she needs some better treatment by good team of  Doctors. After consulting to all known people we admitted her to another hospital. She became little ok was discharged after coming home again after two days she found difficulty in breathing and she was hospitalized again for the third time and was put on ventilator. Her condition started deteriorating , I thought I will lose her forever. After a week, her condition became worst. Me and my two sisters took decision to take her to the best hospital (Dt-20th May 2013)...and shifted her to other hospital...best one and expensive one. As I lost my father at the age of 5, I could not even think of losing my mother, as she did everything for us she brought us up so well, educated us... By this time we had spent huge amount of money and now we had to spent double of that what we were paying before this. 

What mistake we did was, that we did not make any medical insurance for any of our family member including my mother, even my company where I was working I was not provided medi-claim facility due to my designation. I made a special request to my boss and he said he will try for it. Now in this hospital all central government employees use to come for their treatment and they were provided treatment free of cost except few things they had to buy and give on their own expense which was negligible.

Now this was the time friends I realized what a government job is, it’s worth. I made it a point I have to get one as soon as possible, coz half of my mother’s savings was already spend on her treatment. I was really worried what about our future, how we are going to manage, and many more things started bothering me.

During this time NICL Assistant recruitment came, I had applied for it and started my preparation, even though our family condition was not at all good, everyone including me were disturbed mentally. My Mumma was put on ventilator for almost 15 days per day cost 20 K. It became difficult for us to afford, now time came we had to borrow money from our known people. I didn’t even hear her voice for 15 days. I could not even see her in that condition and every time I Avoided going in the ICU. After 15 days she came out of ventilator, she was on oxygen for few days and finally she came out of everything. But she became so weak after taking the high doze antibiotics she could not even turn and move her body parts, loss of memory, bed sores, pressure sores and few other complications of which we had to take care strictly. After a week she was given discharge and came home. Gradually her condition was improving and night time when she uses to sleep. I use to study for 2-3 hours till 1-2 am. And again in the morning I had to leave for my Job (Timing 8:30 am to 8 Pm) as I have to travel by bus 1 hour going and 1 hr coming. Me and my sister use to take care of her as she became bed ridden, physio use to come every day we have to pay him 300 per day, nurse use to come for dressing 100 per day to her and then medicines cost. Our financial condition was not at all sound. Still we managed somehow. So many times it happened that, I and my sister had to think from where to get money whom to ask. When we were in short of money. When my Mumma was alright we never ever faced this kind of situation in life, and so I was very casual regarding my Job.

After couple of weeks she became alright. I promised her mummy by the time you become alright completely I will get a Government Job. Don’t worry about our financial condition; everything will be fine, trust in God.

Finally my NICL exam came in July month for which I appeared and I was shocked after looking at the question paper. It wasn’t the pattern what I was preparing. I was preparing bank exams pattern and this was somewhat like SSC which I never gave in life. My GK was very poor that time. I was not disappointed at all, coz I did my best. But as I faced NICL for the first time I did not have any clue regarding its pattern. One positive thing I got to learn was I have to work on my GK. And the result came I failed, very much expected. But I did not give up…

Now after this in July month RRB PO and OA notification came and then IBPS PO, I applied everywhere later in IBPS Clerk as well. And continued with my preparation. I always use to make my Mumma understand, “take your medicines properly nothing should happen to you as it will affect my studies”, she replied saying when things were fine why you did not do your preparation at that time coz she knew we have to do everything for her as she was bed ridden and totally dependent on us and she use to feel very bad for us in such a worst condition she was concerned about us..That’s what a mother is, again I explained her mumma it’s still not too late.

August month we took her for routine check up by this time her hand movements were fine Dr told she is completely fine told she need physio therapy 2-3 times in a day to get back her lower limb movements. Trust me friends, it was very difficult for me to study after coming from my Job after spending 12 hrs and then taking care of my Mother. Physically and mentally I was not stable. Still I knew I need to get a job as early as possible. I took Mahendra’s online Test series and use to practice every alternate day one mock test. My score started increasing day by day and use to practice those problems which use to come wrong or which I was not able to solve.

Now September month came and my RRB PO exam came, I was little confident now. I appeared for it and was not able to solve GA section. Again I realized in need to work on GA more.

 Now again my mother’s condition started getting deteriorated as she was bed ridden for almost 3 months no body movement and became very weak, her bed sore was a big problem for me and my sister as she was a sugar patient. She got infection we had to take her for check up. Doctor gave prescriptions and told us to take special care of bed sore.

After a week my RRB OA exam came. The day I had my exam I was busy with my sister and the nurse to help them give bath for my mother as Dr recommended that as she was bed ridden my sister use to do sponging for her every day. I was not able to revise properly during the last hours of my exam and showed some anger on my sister. Finally I left the house mummy blessed me do well beta, in that worst condition. I gave my exam, I was happy I did better than PO. Returned home shared with my mother “Mumma I did well this time, possibilities are there I will get through”. 

Her condition was not good..She knew she is not going to survive but did not share anything to me, shared with my sister. Whoever use to come to see her she requested them every time please take care of my children, when I think this I start crying, In her worst condition she was thinking of us instead of her own health..That’s what a mother is...I told her mummy nothing will happen to you, Take Ur medicines properly, Ur diet. I have my main exam coming next month (IBPS PO) she told me pray to God I should be fine. I don’t want anything should happen to me which would affect your studies. I made her understand nothing will happen to you, you will become alright and I have to make our dream come true( My govt job and we wanted to buy a four wheeler) this was the reply I got from her “ Beta har kisi k sapne pure nai hote” this makes me cry as well. She knew very well she is there for few days. Which I did not realize.

And another line said by her was “ Ronnie beta I don’t want to live” coz during her last days she was suffering like hell. And every time I use to pray to god, please make my mother alright soon like before, this time the scenario was changed, I use to pray to god take her away god, don’t make her suffer so much, I can’t see her in this condition any more. I use to pray this with tears in my eyes.

It was October first week, her condition became same like before, Oct 3rd night she started telling prayers aloud. I didn’t know the reason behind this, my sister told her Mummy please go to sleep its late night. After half n hour she went to sleep. Next Day (Oct 4th) early morning she was in deep sleep she was not at all looking good. We had to hospitalize her again, borrowed money from someone as we did not have any money this time.

After doctor examined her, he gave me this reply, this time her condition is not at all good. BP going low, kidney not functioning well and bed sore is become deep.

I asked Dr please tell me frankly is she going to survive, he told me “give me 48 hours”. 

I remember 5th Morning when I went to see her in ICU, She was crying and telling why u people are not with me, u both are leaving me and going. I explained her, “Mummy we are not allowed in ICU”, this was last I spoke to her. Her condition became so bad she was put on oxygen two pressures sore on her body. She was not conscious now.

Dr called me, told me now it’s time for u to take decision she needs dialysis, surgery for bed sore even after doing all this I can’t assure you whether she ‘ll be fine or not. Decide and let me know..

Never thought in my life I’ll face this kind of situation in my life, it was a hard decision after deciding I thought I should let her go peacefully there were two reasons behind this, first I could not see her suffer more and we did not have any money to spend. We had already asked all our friends relatives...

7th morning she breathe last and she was no more with us….

19th was my IBPS PO exam, morning session and unfortunately that day we were supposed to do her 13th day, I could not study anything friends just went and sat in the examination hall, tried to solve whatever I could.

By this time RRB Exam result came I cleared RRB OA, however failed in RRB PO in GA section by 4 marks. I was happy I cleared first bank exam in my life.

Next was IBPS Clerk on Dec-08, I knew this is the last opportunity for me as I crossed age in August month itself; luckily I was eligible while applying for it My DOB (27-08-85).

I took leave for two months from my job, again a very difficult decision as our financial condition was not good and I was without salary for two months. I gave my BEST! Friends, tried to study and utilize my time as much as I can. It was very difficult for me to concentrate after losing my Mummy who was so close to me. All of a sudden her thoughts coming in mind and then I use to start crying for her. I use to pray for her everyday and for myself that god give me strength and courage and help me to concentrate in my studies, I am very spiritual person I have a lot of faith in God. 

8th December was my IBPS Clerk Exam Morning shift; I had already joined my office from 2nd of December as I promised to my boss that I will join from December month.

Finally it was the day of my IBPS clerk exam came. Before I could reach my centre I went to grave yard to seek my mother’s blessing. Went to her grave kneeled down cried a lot prayed to her bless me so that I can do well mummy. I cried coz never thought this day will come in my life. 

Every time I went for my exam or for any interview I use to touch her feet and take her blessing. And now I have to go her grave and seek her blessings. Things changed terribly which makes me cry every time I go there.

Finally reached my centre and when exam started, I was shocked to see the GA section as I am already weak there and it was full of banking related questions. I solved that section in two rounds...first round only those question which I was sure shot, counted it came near to 9-10 I had previous years cut off thought this won’t do. 2nd round I solved those questions which I felt logically what cud be the answer. And wasted too much of time over there. Reasoning section was tough too...

At last I came to math section which was horrible. I didn’t expect much, I started preparing for this year’s RRB and IBPS PO as clerical I am not eligible. 

Finally IBPS clerk Result came. I was so happy never thought I would clear it. Now I was worried about the scores, I was expecting somewhere between 100-110. But I wanted to get 120 plus, coz I felt that was a safe score.

Again after 10 days score cards were out and this was another surprise for me I secured 121.

It happened coz this time my Mumma’s blessings was there with me and almighty god’s...now I became more strong believer I am sure My mummy is watching over me and god is helping her to bless me. I prayed everyday for my success in these exams. Rest you all know friends I have already shared both my interview experience, selected in MGB, awaiting for IBPS Clerk Result. I will update it once the result is out.

Now friends my motive to share such a personal thing here is only for those aspirants who trying hard to get a government job and who are facing tough situation in life in their families like me. I know it’s very difficult to survive and concentrate in studies.

And those who already cleared the exams and settled with a govt job, they know what hard work is and how much it took for them to achieve it.

I would suggest never ever give up, Practice as much as you can, even those who are living a very comfortable life, don’t be dependent on your parents. When they have given you everything, its ur turn to achieve something and take care of them. Take care of your parents respect them love them, I know everyone love their parents but many of them don’t show, same was with me.

And I feel for it now, I don’t even have any pic with my Mumma which I can see keep it with me. Please take care of your parents and always show them to the best Doctors best hospital. Don’t think of money, think about them. They are very special to us. And no one can take place of your Mother and Father. Even though today I have a govt job, somewhere I m not happy, I wish my mumma was there today, I could have share my happiness with her. I can hardly remember a single day I don’t cry for her…but that is life, can’t help it…

Do well friends All the Best If u practice hard, no one can stop you. You need to sacrifice lot of things in life. Before I spend money anywhere I think ten times, is it really important for me to buy this, I did not apply for RBI coz I could not even afford for 600 Rs to fill the chellan. Still My friends helped me a lot.

There were few problem in reasoning like syllogisms and Maths some problems which I was never able to solve, I asked for help to my friends they told they will, and they did not even answer my calls, do not keep this attitude..always help others. Finally I got it from youtube and I was perfect in that.

Remember one thing if you do good to others , god will do good for you. Work hard, trust in God. The way things will change, you yourself won’t believe. And this is not the end of my Journey, I am going to crack this year’s IBPS PO. I will work hard again, rest God is there and My Mumma, when she was alive she did everything for us and now she doing miracles for us from heaven. Love U Mumma!!

This is a note which she wrote it for me, you can make out from her hand writing how weak she was. This happened once when I did not eat food coz  I got angry on her as she skipped her medicines, and as she was bed ridden this was the only thing she could do. This note is kept in my file folder  like all other important documents, My sister gave me this after  mummy expired.

I am sharing One song with you friends which I hear it every day and think of my Mother, Before I can start my Day. Please listen to it once (you can download the song from here).

And yes I have been selected For IBPS Clerk PNB Bank My First Preference, I have Secured 60 out of 100 in My interview. Happy and sad Mixed emotions as I don’t have Mumma to share this with her..But I am sure she happy right there in Heaven..

At last I want to thank My Twin Sister who supported me, she was a moral support to me, and she took my mother’s place. My elder sister helped me financially. And my Granny for her Prayers and Blessings. And all my colleagues who believed in me and even they helped me financially whenever I was in need of it.

Special Thanks to Shivani Ma’am, Gr8Ambtionz Team. Every time she had posted whatever I mail her.  :)

And Jisha G Nair, Who helped me to made this article.. :)

Thats all for now friends. Have a Great Future Ahead. All the Best all :)

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