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March 19, 2017

Gr8 Topic of the Day - Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage ?

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Today's topic - Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage ?

Dear friends, we have been getting wonderful response to our new initiative "Gr8 Topic of the day". But some aspirants have been complaining that they are unable to participate in them because the topics are too technical and too serious and they are unable to pick appropriate words to argue. So today we are giving you a common topic "Love Marriages Vs Arranged Marriages". Below we are giving a few points supporting and opposing both love and arranged marriages. Pick your point and share your version in the comments section. All the best :)

Love Marriage :

Points supporting Love Marriages :

  • Marriage is based upon love for each other and although the chances of it breaking down are there, yet the young couple hopes that their togetherness lasts forever.
  • Marriage is not imposed. It is an independent choice.
  • Mutual respect for each other is there as they know each other before itself.
  • One has the complete freedom to select his or her life partner. No elder decides.
  • One is not marrying a total stranger. One knows the weak and positive points in order to adjust easily in matrimony.
  • Selecting one’s own partner is a sign of maturity.

Points Against  Love Marriages :

  • At times, it can be financially difficult as the partners have to fend for themselves. There is no elder to bail them out.
  • Familiarity breeds contempt.
  • Financial problems may crop up and due to lack of family support, the relationship between the couples may get strained and result in hate for each other.
  • Lack of support from family and relatives.
  • One of the partner may get bored with the other person and may seek the company of another person to fill in the vacuum in the relationship, This could be a devastating experience and could lead to depression as one is “let down” by somebody one has truly loved. At times, you may not have your family support in such a situation and may have to depend upon other support systems.
  • Risk of the marriage breaking off is there as sometimes love wears out or perhaps the couples are “tired” of each other.
  • The question is who loves more than the other. Sometimes, one can experience deception also and the marriage can also be merely for convenience.

Arranged Marriage :

Points supporting Arranged Marriages :

  • Family support is there.
  • Mutual respect for each other as the marriage is decided upon by elders who bless the newly-wed couple.
  • One can marry at a time when one feels that one is now ready to settle down in matrimony. It could be either after one has completed one’s studies or one has secured a proper job.
  • Partners are matured individuals who are getting into matrimony after feeling that the choice is right.
  • The groom is financially stable and the bride also brings in income for the family in the form of other assets. The couple feels secure financially.
  • The selection of the partners is done by the elders and thus the marriage is more stable.
  • There is excitement after marriage as the couple gets to know each other after the ceremony is over. There is fun in discovering each other.
  • There is no question of “familiarity breeding contempt”.

Points Against

  • Although most couples adjust, yet, it is possible that one may not like the other partner at all.
  • Demands in the form of cash and other assets may be made which could strain the relationship between the couple.
  • One is marrying a totally unknown person.
  • Problem of impotency and other hidden ailments could arise, which may not be disclosed at the time of marriage.
  • The bride may find it difficult to adjust to the life-style of the in-laws.
  • The bride may miss the comfort of her home.
  • The marriage could be merely a contractual arrangement, like well-to-do business families do. There may not be any love involved and at times the male partner may have liaison with other women.
What's your take on this issue ? Which is better ? Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage ? Please justify your answer. 

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  • If you find some grammatical error, point it politely. Don't make fun of it.
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  • None of you are allowed to share or ask any personal details here.
  • Don’t write stuff like “You are getting repetitive”, “Your English is not good” or “Will you do fraandship with me ?” etc.  We are here to learn, please don't forget it.  
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